"Is not our relationship based on memory, memory piled up through various emotional, irrational, or sexual responses? That is, there is desire plus thought, and thought creates the image. Right? Desire, that is sensation, plus thought, and thought creates the image of myself and of you. So there are two images: myself and that which I have made out of you....
"Go into this, please go into this. Look at yourself. You may have been married for five or ten years, or you have a girlfriend or a boyfriend, and slowly the images are built, consciously or unconsciously, generally unconsciously. So the image has taken root through nagging, through domination, through assertions, insults, possessiveness, attachments--you follow? All those incidents have built this image in me of you. And you do the same about me. This we call relationship, and this we call love. 'I love you,' which is, I love the image that I have built of you. It sounds rather cynical, but it is not; this is actual fact."
(J. Krishnamurti from a talk in Saanen, 20 July 1976)