As I reflect, I have come to realize that a lot of advice I received early on was NEGATIVE but it actually pushed me to strive harder to achieve my goals.
I recently read a very good article by a guy named Steve Toback on how advice given by others helped shape his career. He outlined 10 pieces of advice he was given over the years.
It got me to thinking about my own life and career path. As I reflect, I have come to realize that a lot of advice I received early on was NEGATIVE but it actually pushed me to strive harder to achieve my goals.
Here are some of the things people have said to me over the years that stuck with me and helped play a role in the person I have become.
"If you think affirmative action is going to get you a job--you better think again and get your act together in the classroom!" Professor Ralph Izard Ohio University.
I do believe affirmative action got me my first job at WCIR Radio in Beckley, W. VA and affirmative action also allowed me to sue them for discrimination (and WIN!)
"You just don't have what it takes to make it in this market" Comment made by the late Bill Knowles, News Director of WCTI-TV.
The following week I was hired by the competition and stayed there 5 years, while being promoted to weekend fill-in anchor. I was given the opportunity to remind Mr. Knowles of his comment about a year before he died.
"If you get down on your luck, you can always come home again but just don't think about staying too long." My mother--Lillian Mahone.
"You're just watching yourself grow up." My mother AGAIN--commenting on my daughter's behavior when I called her to complain.
"You don't have to be asleep to dream." Mrs. Harriet Weaver--one of my high school speech coaches.
"You are so articulate." From various people throughout my young adulthood. Why wouldn't I be??? I was a speech and debate champion in high school and college.
"Your talent is God's gift to you. How well you develop it is your gift to God." I can't remember who shared this with me during my teens but I have never forgotten it and strive daily to give back.
"I tried it once. It didn't do anything for me" My dad's comments after finding a "joint" in my bedroom one weekend while I was home from college. That's all he ever said about it and I just thought he was the coolest dad after that.
"I hated my mother." Comments from ex husband. Should've been a red flag warning but I was thinking with my heart--not my head.
"Women who behave don't make history." Said to me by former news director, Rob Elmore, during an editorial meeting.
So what memorable comments have helped shaped you?