THE ULTIMATE HOME
Perfection is in the eye of the beholder. Many people visualize in their heads the ultimate home that they will have and raise their children in and reside in for the rest of their lives.
As I look back into my childhood I can’t help but smile as I remember repeatedly sitting by my window many times and thinking about my future prince charming that special man that would one day sweep me off my feet and carry me off to his beautiful castle.
The orange and red sunset would be glimmering in the background. Residents from miles away could see this magical sunset that gave off this radiant essence and a feeling that filled your heart and soul with love, peace and happiness all at once.
As the childhood, fantasy continued the prince then would carry me, to his home. There awaited knights in shinning armor and all the kings’ helpers.
In front of the door awaited a man ready to marry us, so we could start our beautiful lives together in harmony. We would raise a happy and healthy family where memories would be made, family values created and traditions. Our children and their future generations would carry-on what they have learned as they grew up in what would seem to be the ideal home.
As we get older unfortunately, we are forced to live in the land of reality but who says you have to live in a castle and be married to a prince in order to have the ultimate home.
Home is what we make it. As I have gotten older and have had the privilege to create my own home, I have realized the true meaning of the ultimate home.
Many people get carry away with materialistic things that society says we should have in our homes and driveways. If you look in any domestic magazine, they will show you the perfect home, perfect landscaping, all the materialistic accessories you should have inside your home, but honestly is that really the perfect home?
You could have imported furniture fit for a king; you could have the best tiles and carpet around town, but if joy, love and happiness does not exist in your home, then there is no chance of a happy home.
I came from a dysfunctional home and I knew when I got married I was going to do it right. I want a loving husband, I wanted children, and I wanted them to love me as much as I was prepared to love them. Believe me I had a lot of love to share.
My husband and I were high school sweethearts. We dated throughout college and wrote love letters as he was in college and then medical school in the mid-west while I was on the east coast in New Jersey studying. We married in 1997. We lived with his parents for two years, rented a home for one year, and bought our first home in 2002.
I have learned from my own experience that the first thing to having the ultimate home is realizing that you are the mentor. The people who live with you meaning my children are going to follow the behaviors and characteristics that we display.
In my home, we go out of our way to teach our children that family comes first. Every person is equally important as the other one. When someone is in need, they know that we got their back. Their family will always be here for them. We love each other, we respect each other and when we promise something we make sure, we always keep our word.
Respect is a big issue. Everyone must respect each other. Everyone in the house deserves respect. We are all important and every one must be loved and respected. We support each other and love each under all circumstances.
Showing love is a must in our family. So many people have trouble expressing their love and emotions because they were never taught, so from the moment, they were born my husband and I have filled them with a million of hugs and kisses. We are teaching them to express themselves verbally and each night we reassure them that we love them. We always remind them that they have a special place in our hearts.
We want our children to have a wonderful self-esteem and learn to love themselves for who they are not what others want them to be. Each day we remind them that they are special and they carry special characteristics that make them beautiful inside and out. It is not what you wear, it is who you are inside that matters.
And my husband and I do not practice these rituals just for the kids. We do these things for each other too. My husband and I are happy couple and the love we show each other will teach our children how to love the right way. The true meaning of love, so when they have a home they will have direction and an idea of what is right and wrong.
Things have not always honky-dory. We have are moments, we have our financial up and downs like everyone on this planet, but in the end we all know that we will always have each other. And it is the everlasting love in our home that makes our home the ultimate home. People always tell my husband and I that us that you and your kids are always smiling.
We are always smiles because it not what we have materialistically. It is the special bond, the love we share. When you enter my home it not material things that you are getting, it the love that we share with each other and everyone who comes through our door into our home. I will take this ultimate home package over any prince and princess package anytime.
Love will always guarantee you a happy home, but put a castle and a prince may not always bring you happiness. Love will guide the way to a happy home or as you say it, “The Ultimate Home.”