Love can be defined in so many ways. There is love between adults and the love between parents and their children. Love is shared between friends and often between teachers and their students. If we are lucky, we’ll get to experience love in a variety of ways over the course of our lifetime. Sometimes love blossoms and sometimes love fades…either way, it shapes who we are and how we see the world.
Our first love experience is that of the parent child. As children we could not choose the family we were raised in, but as adults we can create the parent child relationship in the fashion that we desire. First we are children and then we are parents …we get to experience both sides of the relationship. Our second love experience is with an equal per se, but we can be the person that stays or the person that leaves. Heartbreak is a miserable experience, but it is worth the growth to endure it at least once in a lifetime.
Love between a mentor and a muse can exchange enlightenment between people who “have been there done that” and the beckoning canvas. The reward of helping others and of being vulnerable are not mutually exclusive…the energy releases joy and love. When I was in my early 40’s a woman by the name of Jonell Kirby Cash sought me out to help her with the release of her first work of fiction “a Ring a Dance a Second Chance”. I did not know at the time what her presence in my life would bring.
A short film on SoulPancake http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iIsh7UejrWc inspired me to consider Jonell in this Valentine season. Folks off of the street take turns speaking words of gratitude into a microphone and thus putting their love into the world. People thank their mothers, their teachers and their mentors…yes I thought…Jonell has been all of these things. If a microphone were set up only to interview the people that she has touched in her life…how long would the line be?
What a wonderful thing to fully realize the impact that you have had on others lives and conversely the people that have impacted you. Who are you grateful for? If there was a large microphone at your disposal right now….who would you give a shout out to? In this season of love, I would say to my children “I love you unconditionally”. To Jonell I would say “thank you for believing in me and for inspiring me”. To myself I would say “thank you for fully realizing your value on this earth…now go spread some love”.
This year, you won’t see me in the Valentines’ Isle at the card shop. You will not run into me out to dinner on February 14th. You may however; find me walking in the park by the river falling more in love with nature. Perhaps you and I will meet in the grocery store parking lot as I wave you into a vacant parking space or offer to replace your cart for you. For me…I want to put love into the world. I hope to meet your gaze and offer you a warm smile. I hope that in some small way…running into me makes your day better…the world a better place.
It is time people. It is time for a love revolution! We have done enough intellectual evolution to take care of ourselves and our planet. Now is the time to open hearts and change minds. YOU and I…we are already connected. This big glorious universe is the love pulsing in each of our veins…we are all connected. My Valentine to You is to say “I love you!” and to ask “won’t you join me”?
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