When you are an adult, mature person, you mostly think of the consequences to be completely infatuated with somebody. However, even if you are retired, don't think that your love life is.
When you see a beautiful woman or a hansom man, you can be sure that your hormones are alert. This doesn't automatically means, that you have to jump on the person for your desire.
A couple, married for let's say forty or fifty years, have a mutual feeling that is in fact many times much stronger than what they felt when they met. It is a feeling of trust, friendship and hope for the future. It is a feeling almost unbreakable. The couple can anticipate the thoughts of their partner. You may think, this is horrible and nothing you would like to experience.
Wrong. This is a feeling of belonging together and nothing is to compare with it. You may
well argue with your better half and you may also be quite angry because of things he or she says or does. But when your partner leaves home to make some errands in the town, you feel
free and happy for about half an hour or so. Then you begin to wonder when he or she is coming home again. You are restless, bored, and you don't know what to do with yourself.
When finally you partner returns, everything lightens up and returns to normal. That' love.
As a young person, you look at the opposite sex as something wonderful that should be conquered in one way or another. When you meet someone of your liking, of course you want to please this person. You also hope that the target of your heart also finds you attractive.
I am sure that you remember your first love. The earth stopped spinning and all of a sudden
the birds in the trees were silent. You didn't hear or see anything but the love in front of you.
Equally sad and subversive it could be when your partner declares that he or she doesn't want to be with you anymore. It can be an experience that you will find quite difficult to free you from. A wise woman once said to her daughter:
"Don't cry, go out and buy yourself a new hat. You should know that boys are like streetcars, every ten minutes there comes a new one.
When you are in the age of retiring, sex is not any more the most important thing in the world.
Of course sex would still be the spice of life and that is Ok. But it isn't the main thing on your agenda. When the day comes and you have forgotten all about it, then you might as well be knitting on the sweaters of your grand grandchildren.
Many young people find it disgusting, when one of their parents, after the loss of their better half, suddenly find some one new that gives them a hope in life. I don't find it appalling at all. On the contrary, why shouldn't a person share their newly found happiness with some one they like.
Youngsters maintain from time to time that they have found the love of their life. Immediately the parents contradict them and say that ' you are so young, you cannot possibly know any-thing about love'. This may be true , but not always. Many couples have found their spouse in school.
Finally I want to say that we should all respect the feelings of our fellow human beings. You can never tell how strong a feeling is. The only thing we could say, is that a strong feeling is
like a golden chain. Unbreakable.
From my book 'In Other Words'
When love for you is here,
You feel for sure the atmosphere,
Just one and only of a kind,
Before you know it, you go blind.
You look through glasses, stained with pink
Without rhyme and reason you will think,
Your mind completely out of sight,
Nothing you will do is right.
You try to please your dearest,
She is I hope your nearest,
But don't forget to live your life,
Even though she is your future wife.
When months have passed or even years,
And both of you have shared some tears,
Remember then that after storm and thunder,
There are always days with sun and wonder