When seekers of companionship want to discover whether or not they are compatible, we should never reduce the emotions of the human heart to the physical. A girl and boy or a man and woman should first be very good friends before a romance is attempted. Once the sensitive feelings of the heart are revealed, a strong foundation of friendship is required to maintain love after a disagreement. Without this foundation, a young person risks heartbreak whenever the time and care are not taken to form true sentiment. If one's amorous pursuant is not chivalrous enough to first develop a strong friendship, and an ability to spend leisure time together while enjoying mutual interests, laughter and comforting one another in times of distress, it is up to the careful one to determine the character of the suitor and to cleverly hold the other at arms length until a genuine attachment or lack thereof is determined. It could be that the one who has learned this necessity of love the hard way is not an example to follow action for action, but the truth remains. Wise and careful planning should precede any marriage.

People are always looking for easy ways to satisfy themselves, an immature and natural response to the human condition.  But humans are above animals in that they are capable of providing for themselves longer lives, greater security and a less barbaric quality of living.  When women allow men (or vice versa) to revert to the behavior of wild animals, giving in to their mere lusts and whims, they undermine their own security and diminish their possibilities for happiness. What a couple wants beyond the basic desire for intimacy is a partnership and a friendship that grows and lasts to create a lifetime of happy events and memories.