Establishing your foundation to enjoy life is not such a hard task.  It comes down to filtering out the negatives and incorporating a new strucutre of positives.  It also is imperative that you, the individual accepts Accountability.  This is where the turn around you've been searching for begins.  However ,before we can rationalize and understand the importance of Accountability many of us, who are so caught up in our past and present conditions must relinquish  the scapegoat of our lives; VICTIMHOOD.  This state of being is the prelude to drama, blame, poverty, denial, excuses and immobility.  We can choose to either believe the circumstances we currently live in or we can choose to change them and live life with a better outlook.  I know many of us have had horrible experiences in life; sexual abuse, beatings, a childs death, a loss of a spouse, a crippling disease and many others but allowing these experiences to become excuses for never moving forward or ever enjoying life again will become your crutch, your mental state of victimhood.  You can stay a victim for the rest of your life or you can take the steps to move from this environment and become accountable for your life.  How do you do this?  Begin by surrounding yourself with positive and uplifting people. Start your day with a loving and giving mindset. Also Stop reading the negative news !  What good does it do for you by getting yourself worked up over some controversey or some stupid news about a movie stars personal life.  Read the Bible and other spiritual and inspiring information. It will be your support system when the world is trying to pull you back in. Let go of all those ill feelings you've harbored and start replacing them with forgiveness which will lighten the load you've been carrying allowing for abundance and change to materialize within your life. Remember this is a process, a work in patience and determination ,but one that if you commit to will change your life forever.  Its just like exercise or going on a diet.  You may not see results right away but as long as you never give up and stay on the path the cleansing and rebirth of a more wonderful life will begin to appear and your mind, body and soul will find peace.