How do we process our feelings when facing crisis? As I stated earlier, sometimes it is best to get some professional counseling. This is one time you need to buck up and do the right thing. Remember, divorce can foster devastating emotions. It can be overwhelming to travel the road of divorce and recovery—alone.
You don’t have to be alone. You can occupy your time by going to a divorce class, talking to a friend, or offering help to someone else in need. Anything that will help you move on is a welcome benefit. I found understanding and acceptance by talking to others who went through divorce about our mutual calamity. Once you realize you’re not alone, you won’t feel so lonely.
I believe that new emotions are born from “the process.” When men go through crisis and tragedy, unfamiliar feelings are summoned and our character is redefined. When we meet these challenges head on and accept the changes we must go through, we discover one more characteristic, integrity.
I found it very therapeutic to keep a journal. In high school, I used to take a class called, “Encounter.” In that class, our teacher had us write in a journal every day. When I was going through my separation and divorce I started my journal writing again. Sometimes I go back and look at my innermost thoughts during the biggest challenge of my life. Writing in my journal helped me recover. It also made me realize “a man’s feelings” are distinctively his own.