What feelings do you have when something meaningful in your life comes to a close? Do you ever feel that there is a permanent end to an event or phase of your life? I contemplated this thought as we finished this season at the grieving center where I am a facilitator. Those families that close their participation will probably never completely be "finished" with their grief. And the families returning will use this break to enjoy summer vacations, but thoughts of their loved ones will still be present.
What is it that we want or expect from "closure"? Answers to questions may never come. Relief from pain is never complete. The ideal answer seems to be that we can put some things in life to rest , so we may rest. Saying goodbye allows you to start saying hello to the new ideas, possibilities, and people you encounter. It's hard to move forward when you're dragging a huge sack of rocks behind you.
We have a closing ceremony for those leaving, to acknowledge the work they've done and the healing that has taken place. Why not devise you own small ceremony for those hard to let go of things? Sound silly? If it's crowding out room for new beginnings, give it a proper send-off and express gratitude that it's done. Living in the moment is the attitude of choice for many. I'm trying to make it mine consistently.
Wishing you the best,