Each of us has moments in life that are cherished and remembered fondly. They may consist of moments with family, friends or associates wherein we felt a warm sense of belonging. Sometimes they may have been moments that challenged us to our core. This book is about some of my moments, but more it is a book about ways in which we all can face our challenges and overcome them.
This book tries to do two things. First, it consists of a number of items I have written through the years that reflect my states of mind. Second, the book is a light biography that reveals aspects of my life that should give the reader a framework for understanding how I arrived at those states of mind.
Taken together these elements provide my story. My experiences growing up and in my early adult life are fairly straightforward. My studies and experiences as a minister/teacher and counselor have taught me a great deal about how our minds work. It is in understanding that process that I was able to develop strategies for meeting my challenges. My writing seeks to illustrate some of the successful and less than successful efforts.
Hopefully, this book will provide some constructive steps that the reader can use to bring about a richer and more satisfying feeling to the events in their lives.
From the Introduction:
I have often said about my own life that if I like where I am and feel mostly satisfied, then the path that has brought me to this moment has been worth it. Would I change anything in the past if I could? Maybe. I really don’t know. Certainly I have had experiences that were very painful. I have caused pain to others at times, consciously or unconsciously. I have felt great loss. I have experienced overcoming. I have even had a few miracles that really caught my attention. Would I be where I am today, feeling fairly satisfied with who I am and what I have accomplished, were it not for the sum total of my experiences? I think not. I would have been somewhere—in fact I am somewhere in all those alternative possibilities that are the results of paths not consciously chosen. All of the possibilities of those paths are somehow woven into the fabric of my total consciousness and help to provide the substance of who I am.
Life is a progress. It is a progress even if it seems to be going backward! Surely there have been times in your life where you backtracked to pick up some of the pieces that have dropped from what you had gathered in? Sometimes going back restores our perspective so we can better understand the choices ahead of us. Troops in battle may retreat in order to gather their forces, treat their wounded and plan for the next advance. Life is not measured by the moment of going forward or going backward. If it is measured at all it is by the character of where we are right now. This is really the only moment of importance. Now is the moment wherein we make our next choice. That choice moves us on to each new experience, which is also a choice point.
I will present through the pages of this book poems, thoughts and reflections that I had the presence of mind to document through the years. Many of these concern my family interactions. Some may seem crudely constructed, yet they represented the quality of my consciousness at the time. They are my signposts along the way. They continue to influence me as I remember them today. Perhaps they will provide insights for you. You and I have not traveled the same path, but if you are reading this, our paths have already crossed. In crossing we are giving and receiving from each other. Therefore, the insights may have greater mean-ing and appear to come to each of us at just the right time!